nce heard a powerful quote, “people who FALL in love can FALL out of love.”
Nobody “Falls” on purpose, and to “Fall” describes an accidental action.
For that reason, falling in love, should be an ongoing series of choice making… not something dictated by your momentary passion.
Same principle applies to making career decisions.
According to Rob May, CEO of Backupify, “passion is fleeting, and defining your life path by what you love at this very moment likely means you will not stick with it once your passion fades.”
In the article he also states, “Studies have shown that passion comes from mastery, not mastery from passion.”
We are all encouraged to not settle and chase our dreams, remember this one?
What we often neglect is that, our actions and daily living needs to be pathway towards “our dreams”.
At 37, here’s what Rob May would have told his 22-year-old self:
1. Set the ground work for future excellence.
There’s no way, you’re going to be competing in the Olympics if you are out drinking 7 days a week. Get focused and spend as much time as you can to master your craft.
If you want to be the master, you better be able ready to make the sacrifices.
2. Be willing to master the tasks that some people find too boring or too difficult.
“Have you ever lived in one of those bad college apartments where you have a door that sticks? The trick to opening the door is something like to twist it half way, then lean into it with your shoulder and lift up on the handle while you twist it the rest of the way. It’s a complex motion and when you first move into that apartment it takes you 2 minutes to open the door every time. After a few weeks though, the motion has become natural and you get it on the first try.”
3. Don’t Watch TV.
Get out of your “hanging out mindset”, because when time passes all those shows that your friends are currently talking about; it’s trivial.
Instead, do things that will give you competitive advantage in the future.
4. When all fails, just do something.
Whether you are suffering from “idealism” ( holding onto unrealistic ideas) or suffering from “paralysm” (having no idea on what you want to do), just keep moving forwards. If you are unsure, then in any direction possible. As you proceed, life always seems to reveal itself. It’s all about progressive learning.
5. Having smaller goal is fine.
I once heard someone say that, “the richest man is a person who can afford to do everything that an average person does.” There’s definitely nothing innately wrong with this statement. Everyone is driven for different things and to each, his own. But, many times it does seem like many people do have big dreams, just are not willing to make big sacrifices.
You get what you put in. The grass is greener where you water.
Reference: Grass is greener where you water (http://ofleadership.com/grass-is-greener-where-you-water)